For Ladies:
Being licked feels wonderful to women. There are a few women who don't find it pleasant, but most women just love it - if you do it right! The problem here is that according to women, a lot of men don't know how to give a woman pleasure through oral - so strap on your safety belts - as we tell you what women really like. An important thing to understand about women is that a lot of women are shy and kind of embarrassed about how their body looks. If the woman you're with isn't comfortable with her body, be reassuring but also dim or turn off the lights. This will help your partner to concentrate on what you're doing to her instead of worrying about how she looks to you. |
After a nice long foreplay session, try moving down to your lover's inner thighs. This is one of a woman's most sensitive and erotic spots, although it is also one of the ones she worries the most about, appearance wise. Try gently kissing her inner thighs, and licking them with a dry, pointed tongue. Light nibbles are good, too. A few women are too ticklish to enjoy this. Don't force the issue or she'll be a nervous wreck instead of passionate. When you first move to your partner's vagina, do not do anything sudden. Try licking gently up and down her lips, not opening them, just licking them and maybe a very gentle nibble. After a couple minutes, you can suck on them but never be rough or suck too hard. Don't go further yet unless she urges you to or until you start hearing her breathing change or little moaning sounds.
Now you move on to the hood of skin covering her clitoris. That is the little nub of flesh to the front her her vagina. If a woman is excited, her clitoris will be hard. If she is not totally excited, it will be soft and very small. If it is not totally hard, or you are not sure, suck gently on the hood over her clit, not yet touching the clit itself. You can use a finger from one hand to stroke her vaginal lips. If you feel moisture on them, you can very gently insert just the very tip of your finger between her lips as you suck over her clit. After a little while - and don't rush - gently push back the skin so that the clitoris is exposed. Be very gentle with it - there are a lot of nerve endings in this piece of flesh. Gently suck it - VERY gently. Alternate sucking with soft licking with the tip of your tongue.
Now here are a few things you can try in any random order you like and as she likes:
- Try licking her clit in fast little circles
- Insert your finger into her canal
- Try licking in figure eight motions
- Use both hands to hold her legs apart
- Move the finger inside her like you were stirring a very small cup of coffee
- Put a second finger inside of her and spread the two fingers gently apart, then together over and over
- Lick her clit in a short, fast up and down motion
- Push her legs into the air and hold them there
You can try other things, too. Make sure to pay attention, because at some point, your partner will become more excited. She may grab your head or start pulling your hair. If she pulls your head toward her, try not to change what you are doing with your tongue any more. A lot of men think that when a woman reaches her peak of excitement just before she climaxes that this would be a great time to add variety. Don't.
This is a great time to keep doing exactly what turned her on the most. Something to note here is that if a man starts to orgasm and the physical stimulation that got him there is removed, he will probably continue his orgasm. This is not the case for women. If you stop licking her before she is done, her orgasm will stop in the middle, and she will be very, very frustrated.
Never use teeth on a woman unless it is gentle enough not to hurt. Use a gentle touch always, unless requested otherwise. Be sure to pay attention so you'll know which things you did that she liked the best. A man that gives great oral sex to a woman can bring her her greatest sexual pleasure.
For Men:
How do you give the perfect blowjob?
Hehehehe, blowjobs, bjs hmmmmm... good topic don't you think?
Giving a blowjob can be such a turn of for both parties so try it before you say you don't like it.
Once again like with the guys you both need to be comfortable with it. If you feel that it is not a clean "tool" then have a shower together. Ladies take it in your hands, grab the soap, lather it up and wash it, play with it, see how it responds to your touch.
If there is room in the shower, kneel down in front of him and look closely at it, see how clean it is, before flicking your tongue over the tip. See how clean it is... Now you know that it's clean because you helped wash it thoroughly, Close your mouth around it and feel it grow hard in your warm, moist mouth.
Take control and enjoy it as much as your partner!!
If you are being sensual and your partner tries to thrust causing you to deep throat and gag when you are not ready, grab him gently with you teeth, not tight enough to break the skin but tight enough to stop him...
Do not break the skin... if you do all the romantic desires will have gone!!!!!
Ladies use your tongue, flicking it backwards and forwards as you suck. You can do both at the same time. Trust me on that one...
Now if you feel comfortable sucking him in the shower, get off your knees and head to somewhere a bit more comfortable, like the bed, continue what you were already doing but in a different position.
Ok first if you have lube - like KY jelly handy grab that before getting onto the bed, flavoured is great....
Have your guy lay down on the bed, kneel between his knees, squeeze a little bit of the lube, covering both hands...
Take his penis into your hands, see how slippery and sensual it is, gently massaging the shaft with both hands, occasionally teasing the head paying particular attention to the underside of the head.
Remember that you must be gentle that is why I keep referring to that particular word.
Now ladies hold on to his cock, use your tongue flicking over the head, lick the head all over and use the flat of your tongue to cover more area, gently suck on the head, sucking it into your mouth at the same time flick your tongue back and forwards around the head. Pay particular attention to the Frenulum (the underside of the penis), as it's the most sensitive part of the glans (the head of the penis).
Tease him and please him at the same time, you can do it!
Run your hands over his inner thighs as you mouth moves on his shaft. Lower your mouth over his shaft and the trick to taking in as much as you can - to deep throat is to breath out as you are taking him in. I know this is a big ask, but concentrate on your breathing at the same time to avoid the uncontrollable urges you may get. I won't go into detail, but I am sure you know what I am talking about.
As you suck him deep into your mouth and with your hand around the lowest part of the shaft pump him gently as your mouth rides his hot swollen penis.
As a bonus for your partner with the hand that is almost free, gently massage your partner's testicles. Squeeze them, hold them, run your finger nails over them - there's that word again "gently", and at the same time sensually play with them.
Now the choice is yours. If your partner is your long-term partner and you feel you would like to taste him and swallow his cum, then read on, if not skip this paragraph and go on to the next... Your partner's cock is throbbing with anticipation as your tongue works it's magic, you taste his pre-cum it's salty but nice, you wrap your hand firmly but not too tight around his cock, with your mouth sucking him deep, keep sucking as you pump him faster and faster... Keep stroking him until you feel his cock throb and suddenly he explodes sending his hot creamy cum down your throat... Look at him and lick your lips to show how much you enjoyed sucking his rod dry...
For the ladies who don't like the taste, when you feel your partner's cock throbbing and you feel his hips starting to thrust against you, take your mouth of his penis and with your hand wrapped firmly around his shaft pump faster and faster. Let your partner tell you how fast and how hard to stroke him as he gets nearer and nearer to dropping his load for you.
As he ejaculates let him know that you are excited too. I love watching a guy cum so as he is crying out in pleasure, if you are enjoying it too then I am sure you will know what to do... Taking control of your partner's orgasm ultimately is a turn-on; learn how to give that special blowjob as it can ultimately be a satisfying experience for all involved.
